Speak Your Mind, dummy!
Before you send "hey" and wait, picture it from the other side for a second. Now picture just asking. That's this whole page.
Flip it around
✕ how would you feel?
hey10:41am
…I stop what I'm doing, wait…
you around?10:53am
…12 more minutes of refreshing…
got a sec? need help with something11:38am
??11:39
✓ what I'd actually want
hey! my script's throwing an error on step 3, can you take a look when free? traceback below10:41am
…I answer whenever I'm free, no back-and-forth needed…
ah yep, that's a null check missing on line 42, add "if (data) {" before that block and it'll sort itself out10:45am
Ask yourself the following:
- ⏱️How would you feel if you were me right now — dropping what I'm doing to wait, just to find out the other person typed "hey" with no question attached?
- 🧠If you were me getting that message, you couldn't help, prioritize, or tell if it's urgent and you'd just be stuck guessing.
- 💬You'd rather get the full question in one message so you can answer it whenever you actually have a moment.
- 🙂This isn't about skipping "hey" entirely. It's fine attached to the real message, just not sent alone while I'm waiting on the actual point.
Send this instead
One message, everything in it
"Hey! Quick one — [what you need], [any relevant detail]. No rush, whenever you're free."